From the many stories, myths, and historical documentation such as the Alphabet of ben Sira or many books by Raphael Patai detailing out the vast base of knowledge and history surrounding Lilith, there is one thing I know to be true for myself:
It easier to demonize a woman than it is to let her hold her own power, so it must be stripped from her and her daughters.
That is where we are. It is where we have been. We have been unable to grasp fully our divinity, our connection to it with our body, our ability to hold steady the polarity of creation and destruction that is our birthright, and always seeking where that power and connection is hiding. Where is that wisdom located within us and how do we harness it?

Lilith’s Fiery Darkness Incense
Getting connected with Lilith is a great way to start reconnecting and finding that wisdom, shine a light on it, reactivate it and reclaim it. Many of the correspondences used are meant to be red, a root chakra color, the life blood, and full of the fire of creation. The others help us connect with the wilderness that can be air, our thoughts and ability to connect to the liminal spaces. We can get into the space of the dark, where wisdom resides, and pull it back into consciousness.
Ingredients
- Cayenne Pepper
- Cinnamon
- Clove
- Mugwort
- Dragon’s Blood
- Benzoin
- Sage

Additional information:
I used dried and powdered herbs, plus resins. I don’t measure, I allowed her to tell me when to stop. She wanted less Cayenne and more Cinnamon while I was making it. It felt as if she wanted me to ease into this and I obliged. It smells amazing! I made quite a bit, as I know this will be going on the Black Sacred Candle this month to draw her energy into the workings.
Directions:
- Spend a bit of time with each ingredient.
- Research them, feel into them, and tell them the purpose that you are using them for.
- Add each ingredient into your mortar and pestle, leaving Sage for last. She said so and again, I did it anyway (and later it made sense ~ sit with it, let it come to you).

So tonight, while others are celebrating a country of ‘freedom’ with fireworks, a country that has chipped away at freedoms like my own body autonomy just days ago: I reclaim it by lighting this incense to myself and connecting with the power of Lilith. And know this: in the fiery darkness is where I will find and reclaim the power I hold that cannot be tamed. No, in fact, this month, she requires it roars forward in every woman. Go get it!
A Candle & A Key,
Kaycee
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